Jim, that is so true! I think the cause of so much bad behavior in dogs is the lack of leadership in the humans. The dogs get so stressed having to always be the alpha and lead. It is truly a stressful place for them.

It is complicated and interesting. In our home, all humans are over the dogs. Even the kids and we make sure of it. Puppies test the kids. We had a couple of issues, once with Dot, and a bunch with McGuire as young puppies.

Its a quick lesson in the home that NO, you are not higher. You may not be above the kids. Kids are older now and the next time a young dog is brought in, it will be a non issue. Kids are too dog savvy now.

And no, no one gets beaten in this house. It is things you would never think about, like McGuire likes to move people out of their seats so he can have their spot. If he is in my spot, it is a MOVE! and he is out of it in a flash. He will move my husband though. My husband only moves because he paces back and forth and the pacing drives him nuts. I'd send him to his crate for the pacing, but, he's his special dog.

I speak dog. I read body language well. I like a confident, dominant dog. They make GREAT show dogs. Dot's handler says she shows like a doberman and is a joy to have travel with them. That is a big deal in a whippet. McGuire is happy and confident in the ring. A little too happy sometimes, but, I'd take that over scared/timid

One thing I can suggest, is to go to a GOOD breeder and have them help you choose a temperament for the family that will fit. Or, go to the shelter and have them help you. They have staff that have spent time with the dogs and tested them. They have an idea of the dogs personality and can help match the right dog with the family