First of all, you know I was kidding about you being "too" pushy. And I agree that you have to manage the shoot or, ultimately, you will be blamed if the images don't come out the way you want. Having said that, we all find ourselves in situations that are simply not manageable. So, you make do and move on. But if you look at every photo situation as ultimately reflecting your professional standards, then you do what's necessary to make sure you get good stuff. Sometimes that means planning better and sometimes it means controlling the shoot as it happens. Either way, it's your shoot and the results are your responsibility.

Jim